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In any relationship, the first kiss can be a time of high anxiety. It’s not easy for a lot of guys, particularly those who have been out of the dating scene for a long time.

You’ve got good reason to be nervous when kissing her for the first time. The first kiss is for some women, a way of sensing chemistry and compatibility.

How you go about getting her to kiss you is as important if not more so than the actual kiss itself. Women pick up on several cues at the intuitive level that make that first kiss either intensely romantic or a “let down”.

Never treat this intimate act as a ritual that you should just do and be done with. Here are a few guidelines for doing it the right way.

1.) Do not try to get her permission by asking her.

You can’t just grab her and start kissing because you’re feeling aroused. Instead you must gauge when the moment is right. If there is sexual tension between both of you and she is showing signs of attraction for you, then seize the moment and kiss her.

To ask for permission at this moment, lessens the romantic impact of that first kiss. This can make you seem weak. Many women want to be swept off their feet by a strong confident man who takes charge. Take charge of the moment.

2.) Women signal their attraction to a man in a number of ways.

Do you find that she is touching you in casual ways during conversation? Maybe she might find excuses for holding on to you such as when she is walking on slippery snow and uses you for support. She may have brushed her arm or hand up against yours.

Pay attention to her eye contact. A dead give away are the quick glances she gives you when she thinks you aren’t looking. When you are talking, does she give you prolonged eye contact?

Do her eyes seem to take in the different parts of your face? If her eyes stare intently at your lips, she definitely finds you arousing. Does she lean in closely to you a lot?

Is she somewhat nervous in your presence? This is a good sign. She may even play with her hair when talking with you. Dilated pupils are also a very good sign.

3.) Start your kiss slowly, as if in slow motion.

Take her hand, lean in and gaze at her lips and her mouth. If she doesn’t resist or pull away, gently kiss her. Try playing with her hair gently or cradling her face with your hands before you kiss.

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