Calling An Ex Back: Such A Big Deal?
All people deal with break ups at certain time in their lives. Once the relationship had gone sour and goodbyes were said, the heartache and anxiousness is just beginning.
Along with the pain is the confusion as to when and should you call back your ex right after your broke up? Several couples have encountered such dilemma. It may not sound okay for you to call him or her, yet you miss your ex terribly.
It is not unnatural to hear of parties who do not want to hear anything from their ex, particularly those who ended the relationship. This is due to the perception that their ex will beg to be taken back into their lives. Even the desire to just let an ex knows that you still value him or her so much is likely to be accounted as an act of being clingy or that you simply do not want to let go.
To Call or Not to Call
You miss your ex very much, don’t you? And you want to call him or her? Actually, you can but not right after you broke up. Allow some time to pass. Give yourself at least two weeks if you really want to call. Practice patience. During the first 14 days following your break up, it is recommendable that you cut any form of communication with your ex.
Do not start communicating your ex yet and as much as you can, hold yourself not to call him or her back if your ex tries to communicate with you first.
If your concern deals on what he or she will think for not taking or answering your ex’s calls, then don’t entertain the thought. Besides, it is for this reason why his or her efforts seemed to be neglected. Let your silence serves as a wake-up call to your ex. Doing so will make him or her ponder on whether you have continued with your life without him or her. It is then that your ex is most likely to realize your worth.
With your total “silence,” perhaps your ex’s eagerness to hear from you again can be barely contained. well, only your ex’s knows about this for sure. But you can be of help by calling your ex now, considering the no communication stage is over.
As mentioned, it is likely that by the time you call him or her, your ex’s curiosity as to what happen to you is above normal level. Thus, the likelihood that your ex will take your call is just too great. Not only that, the probability of the two of you getting back together may even be too exciting to be missed.
The Best Recourse
“No contact” rule may or may not work in your situation, but it is still worth taking a chance. Calling back after the break up is a matter of timing. There is no definite rule about calling or not calling an ex after breaking up. The choice is yours to make, just make sure that you do it in the most appropriate time.
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