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Many of us live our lives hungry, hungry for love, attention, praise, success. But irrespective of how much we take in, it’s tough to be satisfied and feel full. We may get what we need briefly, but then before long we are craving more. It is straightforward to spend each day waiting for tomorrow when we are going to get what we dream about. Most think that tomorrow they’ll arrive at their goal, get a new job, have good weather, or ultimately, magically, meet the love of their life. But when tomorrow comes it’s another day, just like this one. Unless we all know what this day is, and the way to live it totally and really, the accomplishment we dream about never comes. In Zen this is named being a hungry ghost- someone at a party who eats and eats, but is still unable to sample the food, feel full or be nourished by it. The better news is that we can learn how to eat, digest and be nourished by all that comes to us. Zen practice is about stopping the merry go round of our minds and heart. We take our attention off the prizes we think are waiting for us, off being ok sometime, and realize we are ok now.

At the moment we are that which we seek so fervently. The proper way to take the 1st step Stop for an instant Practice is about stopping. We stop our common way of running, moving, chasing, and fixing, thinking, doing and take a breath. Merely an easy breath, just like one we take each moment of our lives, but give no attention to. Step one is to assume control of our focus and be aware of what is going on now, right here, under our eyes, to this very breath. Without this dear breath and the one which follows it, we wouldn’t be anywhere.

Weird, isn’t it, how we take this breath for granted. What else do we take for granted? It is smart to look and see. Exercise: listening Consider for a second what you be aware of all day 24×7. What appears crucial to you, what do you want to take for granted and barely attend to at all? Scribble it down. Don’t evaluate your answers. Be truthful and easy.

As you keep track all week long, you will be astounded by what claims your attention, what you give your life force to. Many of us spend our whole lives focusing on the dreams made by our racing, plotting minds. We allow this Monkey Mind to reign us. The monkey mind is the mind that hops from person to person, job to job, wish to wish, thought to thought. It wants more, never feels great and does not now the right way to say thanks. It chatters continually and is a pro in spoiling, judging and criticizing everything. Sometimes it is very loud in our lives. Other times it settles down. This monkey mind pursues that that has low value and does not know the way to find that which it is craving for.

To fill our hungry hearts, we must find out how to recognize and melt this monkey mind, to take our attention away from it, to turn our focus to what matters. Exercise: Stop the Monkey Mind spend a while getting familiar with the way the Monkey Mind is operating in your life. Much of our unhappiness is due to IT. The 1st step is beginning to become aware. We needn’t hate, reject or try to lose it, solely to recognize what is going on. This recognition takes its power away. As we learn how to make pals with this part of ourselves we help it to settle down and take its correct place. As you listen and stay in the present, bit by bit you’ll be returning to your original self. This is the part of you which knows the truth, is kind and stuffed with lucidity. As this part of you grows, day to day life and the tussles it brings will become transformed. Life will become fresh and novel opportunities will come to you all by themselves.